Ok, technically this post isn’t about a daydream. That song has just been in my head this morning, and it kind of works for this post. Anyway.
So last night I watched the final movie in the Twilight series (judge me if you wish; FX played the series the other day and I watched 2 of them so naturally I had to finish). I went to bed and then had a dream that I started dating Edward Cullen. He loved me as much as his character loves Bella in the movie. Then all the sudden the ex-fiancee C returned and wanted to get back together. We started kissing, Edward found out (cuz he can hear thoughts, remember?), and he came and killed C and we rode off into the sunset. Then I woke up.
Generally I am not one to analyze my dreams. This is due in large part to the fact that I usually dream really, really random stuff. Freud would love to have me as a patient. But this dream was pretty normal (well, the vampire thing isn’t but I’m gonna blame that one on Twilight) and the messages are pretty clear. They are also somewhat concerning to me.
The first thing this dream suggests to me is that I’m still desperately lusting after true love. I think there are few people in this world who don’t want to find great love. But I have a problem of being too obsessed with the idea (and with the fear of being alone). I’ve tried to tell myself a million times, whether in my own head or on my blog, that I need to spend time focused on figuring out who I am and loving that person. I need to revel in the fact that I am a child of God who is infinitely loved and not be so concerned about finding spousal love. I’ve even tried to kid myself into thinking that I’m achieving these goals, when in reality I’m not. I’m not happy being alone and I’m borderline-desperate to find someone (if dreaming about being loved by a vampire who kills one’s exes doesn’t suggest desperation, I’m not sure what does). I don’t want to be this way, but it’s been 4.5 months since I ended my engagement and I still haven’t figured out how to stop.
The second message is pretty clear as well. Right after I found everything out about C I had multiple dreams about him dying (and to be honest, it was usually ex-boyfriends who killed him. I guess I like the idea of a knight in shining armor protecting me). I haven’t had a dream like this in a looooong time. I do think it is significant that this time it was a “new” love who killed him. I think it’s pretty clear that the fact that he died (again) shows I still have some anger towards him. I also think him being killed by a new love means that I don’t think I’ll truly be over him until I find someone else to replace him. I’m not ok with either of these ideas. I don’t want to be angry anymore. I don’t have room or energy in my life to hang on to negative emotions. I also don’t want to be someone who needs a man to be ok with herself. I’ve clearly got some things to work on.
You may think I’m totally crazy for reading into a dream like this. I don’t necessarily blame you. However, even if I just randomly had this dream after watching Twilight, it still got me thinking about lingering issues I have. It’s not like I had this dream and went searching for meaning behind every word and image. It just forced me to be honest with myself about some things I had been burying. That’s a good thing, right? And more importantly, how do I conquer these issues?
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